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Attracting Your Dream Date

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This entry was posted on 6/10/2006 3:39 PM and is filed under Dating,Women,sex,Men.

What do People Look For in a Date? Once you have the answers to these questions you will have the power to appeal to any women or man you want. So let's have a look at some of the basics of dating.

Remember the saying "you never get a second chance to make a great first impression." Well, as explain in my book, this statement is also true in the dating world. Did you know that when meeting someone for the first time they will evaluate, judge and most likely stereotype you all in the first three minutes? That's right, all in the first three minutes! The first few minutes of meeting someone new are so crucial, you must learn to make those minutes work for you, and not against you. And since much of this judgment is based on physical appearance and what is communicated in those first few minutes, here are a few tips on how to find your dream date.

Dress to Impress:

How should you dress when meeting someone for the first date? You should wear a well put together outfit, you will look great and portray more confidence. So first, always wear clothes that fit the occasion. You don't want to meet someone on your first date at a fancy restaurant in jeans and a t-shirt when the other person is dressed to kill. Second, always wear a well coordinated outfit that fits you well. Show off a bit of your curves or muscle. By looking clean and stylish you show that you care about your appearance and how you portray yourself. Believe me, people will take notice. When meeting someone for the first time especially in those first three minutes image is everything.

Whenever you go out you should take the time to look your best. After all you never know when you might run into the Date Of Your Dreams. And remember to accessorize, a new belt or nice watch. Accessories really do make a big difference to an outfit and to your look. People will respond to the image you project, basically if you look like a bum, you will be treated like a bum. So if you want to have more sex appeal, wear something that makes you feel sexy. If you want to have more control, wear something that make you feel like you have authority. Once you have the wardrobe for your desired image consider the other behaviors that attribute to your personal persona. Be aware of your physical gestures, how you make eye contact etc. Whatever you wear be sure to show good taste. The outfit can portray any image you wish, relaxed, retro or professional but you must look clean and it must be done in good taste.


Guys today's women will take notice of everything to do with your grooming habits. Things like has he showered, hair washed and styled? Are his clothes clean, does he smell nice? And, all these little things really do matter to most women. And ladies, most guys today care about the very same things. They want their date to look hot with freshly washed and styled hair, nice clothes and smell pretty. So before you go out on that date be sure to take some extra time getting ready. Show your date you care about your appearance. Make sure you have showered, brushed your teeth, cleaned your nails, and wear nice perfume or cologne. Show you care about your appearance and you will greatly improve your chances for success!

Fit As A Fiddle:

Now you don't have to be a buffed body builder, but you should make an effort to stay fit. And , not just for dating. Exercise not only makes you look good, but it will make you feel great as well. Also, that trimmer waist line will do wonders for increasing your energy helping you to go All Night Long with your date. When someone looks good, carries themself well and has good posture it's an indication of a good lover - both in men and women.


People love those who are unique, someone with individuality. Do a self analysis of yourself, what quality (or qualities) do you possess that makes you different, one of a kind.. Then draw attention to that quality. Do you drive a car that is different, is your jewelry different. Something small like wearing a hat will give you individuality, it will make you stand out from the crowd. For fun try wearing a stetson or fedora, then watch to see what kind of reaction you get.


You must appear to be confident in your every move. Having self-confidence is some thing you can learn. Even if you are not too confident right now you can pretend to be. Yes, that's right pretend to be. To appear to be confident, always look people in the eyes when speaking to them. Breath normally, and speak in a slow controlled manner. Don't fidget. And when the other person speaks, give all your attention to them. I know this can be difficult at first, but the more you practice the easier it will get. Trust me.

Show Respect:

Everyone wants to be admired and appreciated. If you show the Date of your Dreams that he/she is important to you, that what he/she has to say is important to you, you will be easily in their good graces. You do this by being attentive. Make sure your date is comfortable, and content. Give compliments, find the thing that others would miss and compliment that. Really listen during your conversations. Simply admire the person you are with, show respect, make him/her feel good about his/herself and your date will always want to be around you.


If you can make someone laugh, you will often be able to win their heart as well. Don't be too serious, relax and have some fun. Laugh out loud and your date with laugh along with you. Be happy, be funny, and love life.

Marie Clare is a Relationship Consultant and Author. For more info please visit

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