It's a known fact that men, on average, think of sex more often than women do. Why is that?

It's certainly not because sex is not important to a woman, or that sex doesn't feel as good to a woman as a man. With that in mind, why do we seem to be in a society where men feel they do not get enough sex from their mates?

Many men walk around in society feeling sexually deprived. Many of these men are in otherwise fulfilling relationships.

So the problem is men need to get their women to desire them sexually, more often. At least as often as needed to keep up with their sexual needs.

But how can you achieve that?

Since women do think about sex quite often, and it's just as pleasurable for them as a man, there is certainly ways to accomplish that.

What men need to realize is that women are not as visual as men. In other words, women are not just stimulated sexually by an attractive man. On the other hand, all that a man needs to get sexually aroused, is to see an attractive woman with nice legs.

Women, on the other hand, require something in addition to visual stimulation to get to that point.

But what is that magical, additional component that pushes a woman over the edge to need sex?

What you're looking for is something to push your woman over the edge so that she needs to have a sexual release just as badly as you do.

In order to create extreme sexual desire in a woman so that she wants sex right now, it takes a different method than just visual stimulation.

The the only way that a woman is going to get to the point where she has to have a sexual release, is when, and if, she receives the right kind of stimulation through foreplay. What you need to realize is that foreplay begins in the morning when you wake up. When you're kind to a woman, and treat her with respect, and put her needs before yourself, the process of foreplay begins.

I realize that some people are looking for a secret magic trick that will get women to desire them sexually, very quickly. Without going in to all of the details that other people have published concerning foreplay, there are some secrets to increase a woman's sexual desire that really work.

First of all, you have to introduce specific sexual acts that you are interested in to a woman, without being too conspicuous, or manipulating.

For instance, if you want to introduce oral sex into a conversation if you want your woman to desire to have oral sex with you, you have to put the subject of oral sex in her mind first. You don't do that by simply saying, honey, I'd like you to perform oral sex on me because I think about it a lot. Instead, engage in an intimate conversation with her about relationships. For instance, you could ask her, I hope that you don't feel I'm being too intrusive, but it's really important for me to know what you think is important regarding relationships. With that, I know that some people really enjoy oral sex and they consider it an important aspect of their sex life. With that in mind, I'd really be interested in you sharing with me how you feel about these kinds of things.

In other words, you won't blatantly come out and ask your woman to start thinking, and fantasizing, about having oral sex with you. Instead, you introduce a concept into her mind without being too intrusive. If she feels you're being too pushy, or violating her personal space, she's going to pull away from you.

You don't want that.

Instead, you want her to feel very close to you, and move closer to you as you speak more intimately with her. Ways to do this are simply by lowering your voice in speaking more softly. Perhaps you could take your woman out for a romantic evening and engage in an intimate conversation over a candlelight dinner. When you introduce sex into a conversation that's not intrusive, but makes you look more caring to her, you are introducing the thought of having sex with you automatically. The thought then is planted in her mind, and the stage is set.

From there, you could extend this conversation someplace else more private and begin to kiss your partner. Since the thought has already been introduced to her, she will definitely be thinking about sex. Whatever specific act you have in mind. The important point here is not to make her think that all you're after is fulfilling your own needs. What you need to do is make her feel more or less like the idea has spontaneously crossed her mind, or both of your minds, at the same time.

Silka Winsome is a fashion consultant and sexual researcher.  For more information visit http://www.ultrafemale.com.